I have seen the name of Doris Lessing many times, although I have never read any of her books. I am told she is an excellent writer, a woman of high intelligence and even grander ideals. In the whole Doris Lessing is a woman who is spoken of in the highest regard in almost every circle. She is an author and a feminist, a woman who has worked hard throughout her life to place herself and other women on an equal playing field. In other words, Doris Lessing is a woman very deserving of the greatest respect one can offer.

She is not the kind of ‘feminist’ we normally see in our day and age. She, like many women not of the younger generation, was at the forefront of a desperately necessary battle for equality of the sexes. Lessing actually knows well the meaning of ‘equality’, as so many other people in our world today do not, men and women both. Lessing is the pre-eminent icon in the feminist world to my mind; she is what all women who cry ‘equality’ should aspire to be.

But this article is not a history of Doris Lessing and her decades of writing, nor her accomplishments in the cause of feminism. This article is about a recent opinion which she has voiced, a point of view in dire need of being heard by our world at large.

Lessing is tired of women bashing, degrading and abusing men, especially those who could be called kind, gentle, and intelligent. She is also tired of men standing by and absorbing the blows without retaliation.

I imagine I have little need to state my full and unyielding support of this sentiment. I myself have voiced nearly the same idea time and time again with no other result than my being called an intolerant sexist by the world at large. Now one of the worlds greatest women and arguable the greatest feminist has voiced the same idea, and I may assure you that her voice reaches a great deal farther than my own. Is she a sexist? Is she intolerant? Or is Lessing merely a traitor to the ranks, a stirrer of dissent among the world’s feminists?

I say she is none of the above, just as I am not an ‘intolerant sexist’ for my holding to the same views. The abuse of feminism is what Lessing is attacking, women who use the name of ‘feminism’ to further a personal cause driven by greed and vengeance, women who seem to believe that they are entitled to destroy without mercy the life a man they once knew very well, even loved. These are the things (yes, any person who brings ruin to the undeserving is a ‘thing’, unworthy of being called a human) Lessing is attacking, not the idea of feminism, not the cruelties actually imposed on women by men around the world, but the idea that a woman is allowed to orchestrate the ruination of a man simply because the crime goes unpunished.

Lessing does not end her verbal attack on these malicious and mentally indolent women though; her barbed tongue lashes out at the victim as well. Men, she states (quite accurately in the mind of this author), do nothing in response…they merely absorb the blows and drive on when they should be fighting back.

In recent years society has deemed appropriate that a man can, and even should, be blamed for a woman’s misfortune. I understand that this mindset developed as a direct result of mistreatment, and from many directions. Yet I also understand that for every case that reaches the eyes and ears of the nation, there are dozens which do not, because most men aren’t the supreme, ever-culpable assholes that we are portrayed as. Still, for the actions of a highly identifiable few, men as a whole are blamed. I find that decision worthy of nothing more than utter disgust.

Because of this decision and societies enabling thereof, women are now able to crush a life at will and without the need to demonstrate cause, indeed, even evidence of misgivings attributed to some faceless (and likely broke) man. My own ex-wife very nearly derailed my life without the need for evidence supporting her claims; it took me months of difficult, uphill battling with the state and reams of paperwork to reverse the damage, and not all of it was reversed.

But the slandering of the male sex doesn’t stop, nor does it begin with matters of parenting and marriage. Lessing’s comment was spurred by an experience in a classroom in which a female teacher blamed war “on the innately violent nature of men”. I’ll let you read the rest of the article here, if you like.

For centuries much was blamed on women, without cause, and now the tables have turned and much is blamed on men, without cause. The reverberating ding in my skull is this; blame is not to be laid on men or women, blame is to be laid on those responsible for the wrong. If one man, or one woman, commits some crime large or small, how can you possible justify laying the blame on the entire sex? If ten thousand men are shitheads, how can you justify blaming and punishing the remaining countless thousands, millions, of men for the actions of the minority?

People these days are in serious need of having boot put to fat, lazy, bellicose ass. A female teacher speaks of the “innately violent nature of men” to a class room of young children…but does she speak of the “innately malevolent and lazy nature of women” to her class? I think not.